18 years ago, a boy and I entered into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. We were coursemate in a local northern Uni and were in our first semester, first year. We found out that we came from two adjacent housing areas in KL and our secondary schools were located closely to each other and we have mutual friends so we often get together to talk. Soon we were spending more and more time together, studying and revising our coursework. It was purely friendship. Nearing the end of the 1st semester, during exam time, our other coursemates started teasing us about being an item.
As we were just friends, I was not comfortable about being romantically linked to a boy when there was nothing romantic going on in our friendship. I just like talking to him and as he is not talkative, he is happy to let me do all the talking. So one day before our last exam paper, I raised this issue.
I told him that we should not spend so much time together anymore in order to stop the rumours of us being a couple from spreading. That was when he suggested that we give it a try. After thinking about it for a while, I agreed as I feel comfortable being just myself with him so I thought why not.
So that was the start of our boy-girl relationship. He is my first boyfriend and he is also my last boyfriend when his status with me is converted to spouse after being together as boyfriend-girlfriend for 8 long years but I do not believe we were made for each other because I do not believe that couples are made in heaven. Relationship that works require full commitment from each party. There were ups and downs but we manage to work through our differences and stay focus on our happy times.
This year, we celebrated our 18th anniversary of being a couple by moving to our new dwelling and having a 3-dish dinner at a nearby non-airconditioned restaurant. Is this date more important than our wedding date? It is equally important to me. Can most people remember when they officially become a couple with their spouses and how it happened? I like to think so. How many more years do we have, I can only wonder.
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Although this all sounded very normal... I smell "romantic" in your writing:)
ReplyDeleteSo sweet!
Whoa! 18 years! Congrats!
ReplyDeleteI won't forget the day we got together as he's the one who keeps on reminding me of that day. Every time he does that, I will shoo him away as he tries to tell me how romantic that moment. Haha! But deep down I know that day is as memorable as our wedding day. This year is our 9th years together since that day...
Elizebeth D.L., I like to think that it is "romantic" in a conservative and reserve way.
ReplyDeleteJennifer, thanks! So care to tell us how it happened or is it too intimate and romantic to reveal on your blog? ;-)
Yeah... "Romantic" in a conservative & reserve way...I like. :)
ReplyDeleteCongratulations. Not many couples last that long these day, happily and lovingly I mean.. and from your entries, I can tell that those two important essences are still very much alive in your relationship/marriage with your man. Well done! And thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteRedbabe and GerryMoon, thanks! There are rough patches of course but we do everything we can to iron things out.
ReplyDeleteI met my husband on his birthday and we became an item on my birthday. Easy to remember, eh? ;D
ReplyDeleteAnd congratulations on a most sort-after relationship.
This my our 7th year being together and 1.5yrs as husband & wife. Still lovey-dovey as before...:)
ReplyDeleteYour brother is clever, our 1st day of our bf-gf relationship, is our wedding anniversary as well... :)
ReplyDeleteSiew, thanks! Yes, very easy to remember. So do you get two gifts on your birthday? ;)
ReplyDeletesdovelly, may you both have many more lovey-dovey years to come! :)
Alex + Miho, *speechless* :o
wow. good on u to have found the one. the only thing around me is listening to marriage woes and failures and even divorces.
ReplyDeleteu and ur husband will have a long life ahead. =)
Oh, it's nothing too romantic or intimate. I will tell you someday...when I have the mood to write about it. Maybe will blog about it on our anniversary soon...so stay tune. Haha!
ReplyDeleteWah... romantic-nyerrrr.... really.. i am glad u found ur true one... wonder whether my parents remember their anniversary a not...
ReplyDeleteRenaye, thank you. May I know how you come by here?
ReplyDeleteJennifer, I can't wait to read your post on your anniversary. Looking forward to it!
April, thanks for dropping by. Ya, do ask your parents. Your question may bring back fond memories for them.
It's beautifully romantic with 18long years, it's the give and take isn't it? Mine lasted 19yrs and I called it quits to get my life back. So happy for you.
ReplyDelete"ME N MY MILLION DOLLAR", yes, it is.
ReplyDeleteWhen the relationship no longer works despite all the effort, it takes courage to let go of it. You listened to your heart and did the right thing. Bravo!
local northern uni... usm ah?
ReplyDeleteif yes and from the age criteria gathered here, looks like we might have been at the same place, crossed each other's paths or stood behind you in line when buying lunch at "red house" lor?
*rub chin*