"If you were given a choice, would you prefer to die
a) before your spouse,
b) after your spouse or
c) at the same time as your spouse"
At that time, my answer was a) I would prefer to die before my spouse. This is because I do not want to bear the pain of living without him. But now I've changed my mind. I've decided to choose b). I would prefer to die after my spouse because I would like to be there to see him off on his final journey.
As for c), I don't think I have what it takes to choose to die together as some couples devoted to each other had done or plan to do. The following news articles about these couples bring tears to my eyes.
Healthy Vancouver woman wants to die beside her ailing husband
Betty Coumbias, an elderly Vancouver resident, has indicated she wants to die alongside her husband, George, who suffers from severe heart disease.
Mr. Coumbias declined comment on the topic, saying by e-mail that he and his wife are refusing interviews.
But a 2007 documentary on Dignitas by John Zaritsky, an Oscar-winning Canadian filmmaker, followed the couple, both 71 at the time, in their initial attempts to arrange a joint assisted suicide.
Mrs. Coumbias explains in the documentary, The Suicide Tourist, why she would take her own life despite being generally healthy.
"From the day we got married, [my husband] was all my life," she tells Mr. Minelli. "I love my two daughters, but I love him more, and I don't think I can face life without him, and since we read about Dignitas, we felt what would be better than to die together, you know, to die in each other's arms?"
- Tom Blackwell, National Post
Monday, April 13, 2009
Conductor Sir Edward Downes and wife end lives..
The couple's family said that they decided to end their lives together after struggling with serious health problems.
Lady Downes, 74, is understood to have been suffering with cancer while Sir Edward, 85, had become virtually blind and suffered loss of hearing.
Published: 8:13AM BST 14 Jul 2009
Pair die together..
Peter and Penelope Duff, from Bath, ended their lives at the Dignitas clinic in Zurich last Friday.
Their daughter Helena Conibear said her father, who was 80, and her mother, who was 70, had "passed away peacefully together" at the centre.
- BBC News
Published: 22:31 GMT, Thursday, 5 March 2009
UK couple die ..
A British couple suffering from chronic illnesses have died at a Swiss clinic, following an apparent suicide pact.
Mr Stokes, 59, suffered from epilepsy and his 53-year-old wife from diabetes and back problems, but neither was thought to have been terminally ill.
- BBC News
Published: Tuesday, 15 April, 2003, 17:33 GMT
I would often ask myself, when the end is near, will I then change my mind again and make the same decision as they did? Again, only time will tell.