Mindful

I have been reading many blog posts about soon-to-be-parents expecting their bundle of joy but how many of them are actually mindful of their very heavy responsibilities as parents? Not that many, I would say so I am pleased to read an article entitled:

"Do unto others as you would have them do to you – the parenting edition."

where Kimberly who is expecting her first child realises this and shares about it. Seldom I see people with this deep insight into parenting especially the part where I have highlighted with blue text in the excerpt of her article below so I am sharing her words here with you. Please find the first portion of her post below:

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Do unto others as you would have them do to you – the parenting edition.

by Kimberlycun on April 14, 2014   

I was just going to post this on FB but felt it’s a bit too long. So here we go…

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Since finding out that we’re going to become parents ourselves, I have begun to realise, more than ever, how important it is to work on my personal attitude, my perspective towards life, my views of other people and my words.

It is important because I realise that whatever I do or say will inevitably affect my children.

If I were negative, they will grow up to be negative. If I had no manners, they will grow up with no manners. If I were lazy, they will become lazy. If I had no opinions, they will become spineless. If I continued cussing, they will grow up cussing a lot. If I made life decisions without researching and studying, they too will become hasty and stupid with their decisions in life. If I lived a mediocre life, I sure as hell shouldn’t expect them to miraculously become the creme de la creme of society. If I lived a life of blaming others, they will blame me in return.

Giving birth is not noble, it doesn’t take a genius to get knocked up and push a baby out.

A child does not choose to be born, you force them into this world and thus you willingly shoulder the burden of raising them. Don’t act like you did them a favour.

And that’s why, children owe parents nothing. Not time, not service and certainly not money.

Whatever that children give to their parents when they’re old are given out of love, not because they owe the parents anything. So ask yourself, have you raised your children with love?
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Please click this link to continue reading the rest of her post.

I really hope that more parents or parents-to-be are as mindful as her.

Thoughtful

Through this blog I have got to know some very nice and thoughtful ladies and one dedicated teacher who surprised me with gifts and postcards now and then. This post is dedicated to them: Aileen, Claire, Jennifer, Rose, Reptoz, Sharon, Hayley, Sheta and Wenn.

Sometimes the mail goes missing and unfortunately that happened to Rose's gift. Sorry Rose. And as I can't accept registered mail due to timing issues, I would like to thank everyone for their kind gestures and thoughts and would like to say it is the thoughts that count and I really treasure each and every comment made on both my blogs but please do not take the trouble to send me any gifts. It pains me each time when the mail goes missing.

I would also like to say sorry to the mysterious person whose registered mail to me got returned to the sender. I hope your gift got back to you safe and sound. Will the mysterious person please raise your hand? :)

Last but not least, I would like to thank Wenn for the big surprise below. It is a magnetic bookmark. It is a big surprise because I almost miss it as the envelope looked empty.

So a big thank you to everyone who is reading this.

Colourful

I saw this bright umbrella being used by a woman going to the morning market and so took a photo of it. This question came into my mind - will using such a vibrant umbrella livens up its user's day?